Sometimes it makes me sick.

"That's What She Said." It's Michael's tortured 8th grade-level double entendre that seems to be less of a conscious effort than an instinct level form of bad comedy Tourette's Syndrome.


I remember when i first started hearing this phrase more and more. I was battling some lust problems (that have all but gone away) and i think i at least asked some people to at least cut back on the amount they used this phrase around me. Like Michael in the TV show The Office I'm pretty sure its got to the point where some people just cant control it. It seems to me that it really has gotten to be an almost instinctual response. And it does make me sick to my stomach sometime. You know, i have overheard people talking about things we shouldn't say or do and sometime have even brought up "That's what she said". Unfortunately people have brought it up in an almost redeeming fashion. The reference it like you know at least "That's what she said" is not all that bad. Ugh.

Well i am here to argue. Maybe i cant speak for everyone. But i can speak for myself. And honestly, it doesn't help the lust problem. In fact, it makes it much harder. Couldn't help it could you? Now don't get me wrong, i am in no way more of a victim than i am a culprit. I have grown a bit accustomed to hearing it and saying it. So my cry for it to stop is not just to attack everyone else who uses it. But myself as well. Its something i have been working on. But i do need, for my own good, a little more participation.

See here is the problem. Say for examples, my lust problem is i cant stop staring at a girls boobs or butt, or say i cant stop having sex with anybody, or say i look at porn. The conversation would go something like this. Hey randy want to help me real quick? Yeah sure man what do you need? Could you just help me hammer this in? Seriously? You cant do that on your own? Are you in the right hole? "That's what she said". HAHAHA funny right? Lets pause it directly at the moment after "That's what she said" was uttered. What pops into your mind? What do you picture, what do you think of? If there are 10 people in the room that overhear that, what do they think of? If someone doesn't understand it the are trying to grasp the joke, so they think and they try and visualize the conversation to understand the joke. If i have the problem having sex, or the problem looking at porn, well one could assume that the moment i visualize the "that's what she said joke" that that person would be weakened in his fight to control himself and eventually later give in. Everyone laughs, some give high fives or hand shakes, and congratulate the guy for perfect timing. At the very least, that is putting ourselves in a position that we are saying its OK to talk and think about that stuff.

As Christians are we not only supposed to hold ourselves to a higher standard but also avoid the appearance of evil? Imagine what that looks like to those on the outside? I know when people say that i cant help but wonder is that person really pure? Is that person really the saint they are supposed to be behind closed doors when no one is watching? I can only imagine what someone who is not christian feels about me every time i say that.

Look. I don't care if you agree with me or disagree. All I'm asking is please, Once again, cut back on the phrase around me. Whether you agree or not, it does affect me and my own lust problems in negative ways. So please, if you can, cut back on the phrase. And if you hear me use it, please call me out on it.



Randall's lyrics of the day:

So cut my wrists and black my eyes
So I can fall asleep tonight, or die.
Because you killed me,
You know you do, you kill me well, you like it too and I can tell,
You never stop until my final breath is gone.

Spare me just three last words,
I love you is all she heard,
I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever.


Randall's verse of the day :

Matthew 15:10-11

10Jesus called the crowd to him and said, "Listen and understand. 11What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.' "